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And so I began researching the science of how we form relationships.One thing I learned very quickly was that there are no “laws of attraction”, no guarantees of success in dating, no foolproof methods or strategies for getting someone to date you.After all, the point of online dating is eventually to meet someone offline – and it costs more time and money to meet someone who lives further away.Proximity matters because it increases the chances people will interact and come to feel part of the same “social unit”. People perceived to be physically attractive get asked out on dates more often and receive more messages on online dating sites.But more important than sociodemographics is similarity of values – everything from musical tastes to political orientation.We’re all motivated to think that our views of the world are right and when someone disagrees with us, we feel uncomfortable in their presence.
In fact, decades of research has shown that attraction is most likely to be sparked when two people perceive themselves as being very similar to each other. It could be similarity in terms of sociodemographics – most relationships are formed between people who are similar in terms of age, social class, occupational background, and so on.Viren Swami does not work for, consult, own shares in or receive funding from any company or organisation that would benefit from this article, and has disclosed no relevant affiliations beyond their academic appointment.Some time ago, I found myself single again (shock, horror!All of this makes it difficult to know in advance how relationships will turn out in advance.But that’s also what makes the science of relationships so fascinating.