Intimidating words that start with m
The mother of all negative words, "no" can impact us down to our very core.
In fact, research tells us that we react more slowly to the word "no" than to "yes," and that even our brains respond differently when we're told no.
For one of his most notable experiments, he placed two identical jars of rice side by side, labelling one "Thank you" and the other "You fool." He then brought the jars to a local school, and asked students to repeat those phrases to the jars twice each day. The rice that had been praised daily remained white and fluffy, while the other disintegrated into a black, goopy mess.
Sounds like the Twilight Zone, but that was the result of his experiment.
For instance, researchers have found that most cultures have words for seven basic emotions: joy, fear, anger, sadness, disgust, shame and guilt. It's no wonder so many of us have a hard time keeping our negative comments in check.
I told people in a subheading "Failure isn't an option." Now I put "Success is your only option." Low and behold, when people read that far on the page they stop and read it multiple times. Unless someone's actions are truly "bad," there are likely much more accurate and helpful words you can use to offer constructive criticism.
If someone has ever told you they're ashamed of you, you know how disheartening this can be.
If you're ever tempted to say it, ask yourself if there's a less hurtful word you can use to express your disappointment.
There's never a right time to use this word, at least not in relation to another person. Related: Distracted and Overwhelmed Employees Are Costing You Big. Using absolutes (always, never, etc.) often indicates that you feel very strongly about something...however it may not be an accurate analysis of the situation.
If you want to intimidate or hurt someone (e.g., "You fail at everything you try"), using absolutes is great.