Horrible advice after more horrible advice is lent onto unsuspecting and vulnerable men each and every day.When someone is their best self, they are all they can be and nothing more. Somewhere along the line paying for a woman when a man took her out on a date became shunned upon by the men’s self-help community.
Maybe it gave men a certain belief and entitlement that they never had before; so for that, I can forgive many guys for believing this. Not paying for a woman want to take out says one thing to a woman, “This guy is cheap!Rather than waiting until the very end to give her that proverbial end-of-the-night kiss, kiss her much earlier on, and take the pressure off the both of you. This way you get it out of the way and you don’t build up weird, awkward feelings between you and her.Rather than being predictable and ineffective, be spontaneous and successful! ” She says “I know.” You think to yourself: It has to be someplace where we could talk, get to know each other, have fun, get intimate, and hopefully even get physical.Guys who try to play into the nice-guy role are guys who just don’t have the confidence to be true to who they really are. They don’t have to “try” to be nice, they just are.The “Just Be Nice and She’ll Like You” crap is one of the worst dating advice for men strategies I can think of! When you try acting a certain way, you act incongruently with your inner emotions and your true self.