Dating and fear of abandonment
If they should ever cross a partner’s lips, your response will be a quick and decisive “you don’t love me” and that will be that. You suffer from anxiety about most things (not just your relationships). In your mind, there’s a strong chance that your partner is being unfaithful.
In your mind, there is no way that anybody could truly love you because you struggle to love yourself. It doesn’t matter that every other relationship your partner has is purely platonic.
The problem is that, while you may be happy to live without these things, your partner probably won’t be.
You just can’t see how anybody could possibly love you, so you never let anyone say those three special words to you.
You’re one of those people who “have to” be in a relationship because you’re a mess when single.
Unfortunately, you’re not allowing yourself time to process your breakup.
Sometimes it’s not the case that the match isn’t a good one; it’s that you don’t allow it to be.
Your abandonment issues mean you focus on the flaws in your partner. This way, when things finally go south, you can tell yourself they weren’t right for you anyway.