Avoid dating on pof
These men respect that children are important, but they “next” any women who writes “my children come first” in her profile because they have already experienced what is feels like to be a secondary relationship.
That is why they are divorced most of the time (most divorced men sure as heck are not going to endure that situation with another man’s children). What he was referring to was when someone goes OUT OF THEIR WAY to put that phrase, ‘my kids come first’, in a profile or write it during a conversation (how does that even come up in conversation???
But Vondie Lozano, licensed marriage and family therapist, has some other not-so-obvious flags to add to the list.
Self-description: If the user name or headline is weird, overtly sexual or otherwise inappropriate — Bangyourdaddy, 69Reasons — you can stop there, says Trish Mc Dermott, a founding team member of
A couple that is unwilling to get a sitter for a few hours, so that they can be couple is a couple headed toward adultery and/or divorce court.
And Mc Dermott recommends steering clear of people who don’t have kids but use undue space in their profile soliciting information about the age and sex of your children.
So chill out, other people have a right to their views too.
It is not about a woman putting a man before her children.
Christan Marashio, founder of And Thats Why Youre Single.com, adds that “it's normal for people to have some trouble crafting a profile and to use self-deprecating humor to lighten the mood.
Too much humor is usually a sign that the person is insecure and uncomfortable with being vulnerable, which could lead to problems with emotional intimacy down the road.